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Don’t leave FUN off the Menu!

By Angela Vassalo on August 19, 2015 in Blog, Inspirational

Happy couple racing on bikes

I was recently booked for a TV interview in Auckland discussing my book. When my husband Mark heard about it, he said, I could meet you in Queenstown for a few days of skiing after. But no kids! I thought what a fabulous idea, we hadn’t skied in a few years. After my work in Auckland I flew down to Queenstown to meet Mark. We had the best 4 days of amazing skiing, laughing, eating at great restaurants, and having fun! I have to admit it, it had been a while since we were so relaxed, and enjoying ourselves, we were like little kids. Life can march on by so quickly, while your playing your role as this serious mum, wife, stepmum and many more hats. And fun just gets left off the menu. I really believe we need to remember to have fun, and make a conscious decision to do something fun once in a while. When I look back at the things that I used to stress out about, get upset over, and have sleepless nights over, those is- sues and problems aren’t even there anymore. Maybe they’re still around, but they’re not as magnified or dramatic as they were in the beginning. As time passes, things change, situations evolve, and so do people. I’m not the same person I was 10 years ago. I have hanged dramatically. My mental and emotional muscles have been worked out over time, and they’re now tight and toned. Some of the best moments in my marriage thus far, they have been when I was having fun. I was letting myself be happy and just enjoying the moment. I believe that as you get older, you either hold onto your fun side or it mysteriously shrivels up, but I do believe we can bring it back. I want to be remembered as the fun mummy and the fun wife, not the cranky mummy or bitchy wife. In Bus 9 to Paradise, Leo F. Buscaglia wrote “I’m often ac- used of being childish. I prefer to interpret that as child-like. I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things. I tend to exaggerate, fantasize and embellish. I still listen to instinct- dual urges. I play with leaves. I skip down the street and run against the wind. I never water my garden without soaking myself. It has been after such times of joy that I have achieved my greatest creativity and produced my best work.”

You know it and I know it. We take too many things too seriously in life. We spend our lives being told to grow up and act our age that I think we forget how to have fun. It’s as if it’s a sin to be silly or light hearted or to laugh out loud at life. But we are here to have fun and enjoy our lives. Bring back the joy, fun and lightheartedness into
your life. Be happy — what a concept! Watch funny movies, jump on the bed with the kids, tell jokes, and to the next person you see today, smile for no reason…just because you’re happy. If you have to schedule fun times with your partner, then do it. Life was meant to be fun and having a child-like wonder. Lighten up, enjoy your partner, and re- member to not leave fun off the menu!

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